Telling your sister that her ex-husband used to do 'bad things' to you when you were a child is not the best thing to do. I don't recommend it and it will all end in tears and hate. So much for getting all the yucky stuff out in the family arena. And how complicated it does make the 'Father by committee' thing.
And it creates this space in your head where you are doing nothing but calling yourself names and the word 'stupid' is written on the wall in graffitti in this room. Make a great art installation I'm sure.
20 July 2006
seriously now
I think there should be a 'Depressed Peoples Revolution'(DPR). It just makes sense to have a world where you are put to death for trying to make someone smile when they don't feel like it.
No time like the present for jumping off a bridge
Oh, but the Israelies have blown all your bridges up? Depressed people of the world rise up - they can't treat our suicidal sisters and brothers this way!
ok so I'm depressed and self-involved
Wake up and see the real world you say? Have you looked at that recently? That's why I'm depressed.
08 July 2006
Father by committee
Ok, it's incredibly difficult. You think you are on top of it, but it's not possible.
• There's the putting your parent into a nursing home and his off-again on-again illnesses and dementia. The decisions about his health and care and what to do if he gets worse.
• There's the hoard to be cleaned up, sorted and dispersed to everyone's satisfaction. We are only just beginning and there are already issues.... some to do with decisions that were made before my father became less than competent.
• There are the old grudges and current lack of trust and respect between siblings.
• There's the emotional upheaval of having to say goodbye to childhood - and the good and bad memories that stirs up.
• There's financial worry and responsibility - which is all on one person (not me thankfully).
• There's prioritising with two or more other people involved....
I guess we will all appear to be vultures no matter what we do. 'Things' are big in my family and my father impressed upon us the importance of his things to him and that he wanted to pass them on. So we are doing what he wanted and something has to be sorted out sooner rather than later, but it's still squabbling over an inheritance before he's even gone.
Did I mention 'to everyone's satisfaction'?
• There's the putting your parent into a nursing home and his off-again on-again illnesses and dementia. The decisions about his health and care and what to do if he gets worse.
• There's the hoard to be cleaned up, sorted and dispersed to everyone's satisfaction. We are only just beginning and there are already issues.... some to do with decisions that were made before my father became less than competent.
• There are the old grudges and current lack of trust and respect between siblings.
• There's the emotional upheaval of having to say goodbye to childhood - and the good and bad memories that stirs up.
• There's financial worry and responsibility - which is all on one person (not me thankfully).
• There's prioritising with two or more other people involved....
I guess we will all appear to be vultures no matter what we do. 'Things' are big in my family and my father impressed upon us the importance of his things to him and that he wanted to pass them on. So we are doing what he wanted and something has to be sorted out sooner rather than later, but it's still squabbling over an inheritance before he's even gone.
Did I mention 'to everyone's satisfaction'?
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